Ahh yes, Utopia, the quest on which mankind has been for centuries. You see this is how we are created, we are created to love, and hate. To care and destroy. People that we regard as vile, may be regarded as someone vitally important to en entire nation.
You see, in order to gain utopia, everyone has to be happy. Pretty much. So, we need to look into what brings happiness.
For some its a simple as chocolate to others it is as complex as supremacy.
The law of the world currently is that of supremacy. You see, people want to be the best, and they want to keep it that way. People want to distinct themselves, from others.
But if that is true, not everyone can be made happy, for in order to be better than another person, that person has to be lesser, and less happy.
Thus a spiral forms, a black hole if you like. Because there will always be those who strive to be the best. And that means competition.
Now competition can be both constructive and destructive, i.e. both friendly and feral. Now the feral form of competition is rather predominant as for friendly rivalry to exist, friends must value their friendship more than their supremacy.
It is a very complex process, and in my honest point of view, utopia is impossible without the destruction of certain human emotions.