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nid404

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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #45 on: February 19, 2010, 11:45:04 am »
not really sir...women r not that independent her as in the west
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Alpha

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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #46 on: February 20, 2010, 10:57:43 am »
here*


You're from Iran? Didn't know.

I thought you were Indian.  ;D
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nid404

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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #47 on: February 20, 2010, 12:15:11 pm »
I am Indian :)

"here" as in I meant in the East...East is East u knw....:P

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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #48 on: February 20, 2010, 12:44:30 pm »
You will get 'trapped' in the 'commitment'. Just as I said earlier.
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #49 on: February 21, 2010, 06:37:57 am »
Oh I thought right then Nid.  :)

Hey but, some women in the East, well, you know... Les Hommes Battus.  :D


Borakk, as soon as we take birth, we're already 'trapped' in 'life'.  :)
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #50 on: February 21, 2010, 10:49:28 am »
I did not mean that actually. What I meant is that both partners should not try to 'restrict' the other which can lead to one being 'trapped'. Like I would never restrict my wife over anything. She will be free to go whereever she wants or do whatever she wants as long as she is there when I get home. Similarly, I would not tolerate her interfering or restricting my life in any way. I would do as I want. And she would do as she wants. Marriage should not be as to 'trap' one or both partners. They should be able to carry on just as they want. So, to allow for this, it should not be some boring lifelong commitment. It should be more like a temporary contract. :)
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #51 on: February 21, 2010, 02:30:44 pm »
Commitment--- dedication and restriction to only one partner.

Marriage is bound by so many restrictions, even if they are not visible enough. 'Freedom' has its limits too.

Your wife should be here when you reach home--- that's one example.

Personally, I would prefer marriage as a union with all its restraints. That's a "bond".  :) And harder it is, longer it lasts.

Temporary contract?
Divorce is not a play, and marriage, not a game, boy.

It is the only contract that lasts for a lifetime, else, it’s not a contract.


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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #52 on: February 21, 2010, 11:07:01 pm »
What percentage of wives see their husbands as pets?
Like the dog. To be exercised, fed, cleaned up after. Bloody nuisance if he sleeps on the sofa.
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nid404

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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #53 on: February 22, 2010, 02:35:37 pm »
you should be careful when  choose ur partner....
If you say u love someone, you should love him/her forever.....nothing should lead to a divorce...

That's why im against arranged marriages....it's kinda forcing you to get married to someone who's a complete stranger
True Love=Strong relationship=No divorce=Happy Life.... ;D :P
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #54 on: February 22, 2010, 03:37:11 pm »
my dad showed me this message

Nobody teaches volcanoes to erupt, tsunamis to rise and hurricanes to sway around and no one teaches how to choose a wife.

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He wouldn't dare to show that to Mom :P
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #55 on: February 22, 2010, 03:52:06 pm »
Quote from: astarmathsandphysics on February 21, 2010, 11:07:01 pm
What percentage of wives see their husbands as pets?
Like the dog. To be exercised, fed, cleaned up after. Bloody nuisance if he sleeps on the sofa.

A large percentage of wives, at least over here. Thats why it is necessary to have no restrictions over each other. Its how I view marriage. :)
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #56 on: February 22, 2010, 04:32:37 pm »
I dont knw about u guys, but my parents are very dedicated to their children, they are just about willing to take on any challenge for thus, that would help up. subhanAllah.
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #57 on: February 25, 2010, 02:55:34 am »
@Alpha:
I agree that there should be a little bit of restriction as far as extramarital sex is concerned. But this is just as far as it should go.

It is, of course, boring to live with only one partner for the rest of the life. It is a mental torture for both the husband and the wife to form a 'lifelong' commitment and live like that for 40 years. So to free them, it should not be a lifelong one. But a temporary commitment, with a clearly defined time period.
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #58 on: February 25, 2010, 02:45:29 pm »
Boring? It's not a reason that sticks on its own. So many things are boring for some people: taking a bath everyday is boring, eating is boring, studying is boring, etc. But that does not change the normal course of life.

Besides, children are not made for temporary periods. Can you see them changing mothers and fathers every time? Then will there be the most disputes.

For me, sticking to one partner for life is not 'boring', it's a proof of integrity.
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Re: Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?
« Reply #59 on: February 25, 2010, 03:37:17 pm »
Quote from: \m/ |\|!d \m/ on February 22, 2010, 03:37:11 pm
my dad showed me this message

Nobody teaches volcanoes to erupt, tsunamis to rise and hurricanes to sway around and no one teaches how to choose a wife.

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Natural disasters just happen!


He wouldn't dare to show that to Mom :P

Artificial disaster if its a lifelong commitment.
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