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sweetest angel:
True. But to choose to sail into another ocean is a third.
I have made up my mind that i'll be a women who's career would come first. That is what I have been working for and that is what i am dedicating my self t achieve.
You are right, women have lost a big part of their feminine side. I do not find romance as something that i'll miss nor would my life seem unfruitful without kids. My life is prosperous as long as I score the goals I have set for myself, and not goals that others find vital. I would love to take on responsibilities that make a difference in my future, not a responsibility that will set a future for someone else. To have kids is a way to make your name remembered. However over the years it would be lost with generations to come. To climb the ladder in your field is something that would make your name remembered far after your death.
I live to make a positive change in the world. Having kids like a rabbit is not one, I would be increasing the population by one that's all. And don't tell me your kids would make a better future. If i want a better future i'll make one myself.
Alpha:
There is only one ocean... :)
We just give them different names, but all the water is interrelated.
But it's wrong to think marital life will be an obstacle in your way. It could be a push. (Esp. if you get a husband like Borakk. :D)
Having kids will not be your destination, it will be a supplement to your voyage. That's different, totally different. Nobody said women will never be successful if they got married, that's an outdated belief. Nor are men nor women behind each others' success, both stand together. They support each other. They are each others' pivot and help intimately to face the world outside.
Your future, your future... It's good to think about your future. But not with the wrong mindset.
I didn't get what you mean by positive change since we're all kids of somebody else.
sweetest angel:
--- Quote from: ~Alpha on May 06, 2010, 08:57:21 am ---There is only one ocean... :)
We just give them different names, but all the water is interrelated.
But it's wrong to think marital life will be an obstacle in your way. It could be a push. (Esp. if you get a husband like Borakk. :D)
if they are interrelated, why do you say that i would be a mere spectator. I'll sail, just not in the directions that others go.
"a push"?. tell me one thing. As a woman, with kids, who wants to go outside for say, a doctorate degree. Your husband works in the country. Will you, as a married woman, have the final saying if you should or shouldn't go? the answer is NO. You will consider other things first, like your kids, your husband's work and other aspects of people or things dependent on you. Don't tell me as a married couple you will work it out, cause you don't. You will have to come with terms to the fact that your family is first. Even if this comes willingly, it never the less wouldn't have been the choice as a single lady.
Having kids will not be your destination, it will be a supplement to your voyage. That's different, totally different. Nobody said women will never be successful if they got married, that's an outdated belief. Nor are men nor women behind each others' success, both stand together. They support each other. They are each others' pivot and help intimately to face the world outside.
True. But do you mean to say that you can't do that independently? You can, with no obligations or commitments.
Your future, your future... It's good to think about your future. But not with the wrong mindset.
I didn't get what you mean by positive change since we're all kids of somebody else.
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if say, your parents have not given birth to you, their lives would have changed tremendously. to the better maybe?
sweetest angel:
sry my typing is included into the quote box
Ukhti-R:
Thanks guys!
Im trying to get myself involved in the debate section, but you guys all have such strong view points, and the way you lay your points out is amazing, so I don't really feel I fit in. lol.
Anyway's I'll try, but- Im not as good as you all (:
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