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Marriage
sweetest angel:
i hate to disagree but.....i dnt really buy into this love thing. i don't believe in it. although i see everybody around in my family happily married and my parents are as well...i just dnt believe in a person who'd stay there forever..i mean GOD i'd get bored the next year ><. and why would a girl, after getting out of her parents control, like say 21 years old, would go into some other man's control. can't i b normal just by myself? do i have to BELONG to same male so that i am human? and what kind of common sense makes one believe that a man would always see her as the most perfect :/. if he liked u for your looks, their is always the more beautiful...for ur persona? there is always the more confident, smart,etc...!
so WTH. i'll love to live for me and only me. not for some man who'd think just because i have an XY chromosome i'll have to posses qualities like cooking and cleaning. these are not sex linked genes u know!! sry am a bio student :P.
i believe in equality between male and female. marriage destroys everything i believe in. from having his name after your kid's (whom u gave birth to AND raised!) to having him set the rules in the house! when will u ppl b unblinded from that repetitive "love" talk -__-. the only love i'll ever give is to my parents and grandparents, whom very much deserve it!
Alpha:
--- Quote from: sweetest angel on May 06, 2010, 06:53:10 am ---i hate to disagree but.....i dnt really buy into this love thing. i don't believe in it. although i see everybody around in my family happily married and my parents are as well...i just dnt believe in a person who'd stay there forever..i mean GOD i'd get bored the next year ><. and why would a girl, after getting out of her parents control, like say 21 years old, would go into some other man's control. can't i b normal just by myself? do i have to BELONG to same male so that i am human? and what kind of common sense makes one believe that a man would always see her as the most perfect :/. if he liked u for your looks, their is always the more beautiful...for ur persona? there is always the more confident, smart,etc...!
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For your look, for your persona, that's why love is of importance in a lifelong relationship.
Now to think, you can love someone before or after marriage. Before, it's good. And after, it's possible. Just like you learn to love your parents more than anyone in the world, though you never chose them. Love can be induced by care, companionship and fondness.
--- Quote ---so WTH. i'll love to live for me and only me. not for some man who'd think just because i have an XY chromosome i'll have to posses qualities like cooking and cleaning. these are not sex linked genes u know!! sry am a bio student
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It's your point of view. But remember it's in most dire circumstances that we realise that we sometimes need the company of others.
--- Quote ---i believe in equality between male and female. marriage destroys everything i believe in. from having his name after your kid's (whom u gave birth to AND raised!) to having him set the rules in the house! when will u ppl b unblinded from that repetitive "love" talk -__-. the only love i'll ever give is to my parents and grandparents, whom very much deserve it!
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Your parents and grandparents played their role to maintain the cycle of life-- and for this, you love them, because they very much deserve it. And now, when it's your turn...
By the way, we marry for one's own sake first, not for anybody else.
Alpha:
By the way, there's a Hadith I very much admire, which goes somehow like this:
When a husband caresses his wife's hand, it equals to one great deed.
When he kisses her, it equals to two great deeds.
And when he unites with her, it equals to more than this world and all that it contains.
sweetest angel:
that is in a world where the man cherished and respected his wife. sometimes more than she respected him. in this era you will find most, if not all men, crave attention. they expect their wives to put them above everything else and do not expect themselves to do the same thing. all i am saying here is that in this world where women are still fighting for their rights, it seems foolish to condemn yourself to a man. its a contradiction. even if you love a person, it does not mean that you will keep loving him/her for the rest of you lives. and if people would point out for me the married couples who lived happily everafter, i'll do the same with whom got cheated, betrayed, heartbroken and divorced.
marriage is like this big life dilemma that you create with your own hands, and you realize it when its too late to do anything about it. and it is a true fact that at least one partner in a relationship would have some regret that he/she missed something in life because of wives and kids. Why do people see marriage as the normal continuity of life cycle? and then comes kids and responsibility. a dilemma i tell you!
Alpha:
I beg to differ... I see today women are more masculine than the men are. They're more aggressive, more stubborn, more demanding, more uncompromising.
I'm from the same gender, but what is true cannot be denied. Women have lost their feminine qualities, those qualities that made them different from men. The eloquence and the elegance that defined their subtle nature.
Obedience is governance of a gentle kind.
Life itself is a dilemma. Everything bears reasons for complaints. Everybody will hunt reasons to complain, and differ. That's life.
And it is one unfortunate fact to realise, when death is at your doorstep, that you missed to do everything that you could have done. To give birth and raise is the primeval reason for existence. If kids do not come as responsibilities, life will throw other rocks on your shoulders.
Marriage is like a big ocean... To set sail and take risks is a choice. To stay ashore and watch others is another one.
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