Lesson 12 ~ Do not care about what people say! LOL!

[Shoshou..Mony]

It's been a while since I last posted a lesson, but this lesson is really funny and holds a very important message! It's written by Dr.Muhammed Alrifi.

My son, ‘Abd al-Rahman, once kept repeating a phrase I was amazed by. I think at that age he couldn’t actually understand what it meant. He used to say, “Ignore, live and let live…” I contemplated on this phrase as I thought about people’s criticisms, opinions, and dialogues, and found that people vary in their speech and criticisms.

Amongst them are those who are sincere advisors but are not very skilful, and hence, their approach saddens you rather than making you happy. Amongst them are those who are envious, people who actually intend to sadden you and make you grieve. Amongst them are those who do not know much, and hence, they often do not know what they are saying. It would be better if such people were to remain silent. Amongst them are those whose nature is always to criticise, since they look at life through a dark set of goggles, as it were. There is an old saying, “If people had the same taste, merchandise would be rendered futile.”

It is said Juha once mounted on his donkey while his son walked by his side. As they passed by another group of people, the people said, “Look at this inconsiderate father! He rides thedonkey in comfort while his son is walking by him in the sun!” Juha heard them, stopped the donkey, dismounted and let his son ride instead.

They continued on, and as Juha felt better about himself, they passed by another group of people. One of them said, “Look at this disobedient son! He rides while leaving his father to walk in the sun!” Juha heard them, stopped his donkey and mounted it along with his son to save himself from people’s criticism.

They then passed by a people who said, “Look at these inconsiderate people! They do not have pity on the animal!” Juha then dismounted and said to his son, “Dear son, please descend.” The son descended and began to walk by his father’s side.

They passed by some people who said, “Look at these two foolish people! They are walking whilst no one is riding the donkey! Why was the donkey created if not to be mounted on?”’ Juha screamed, and dragged his son. They sat beneath the donkey and lifted it up on their shoulders!

If I had been with him at the time, I would have said to him, “Dear beloved, do as you please and do not care about what others have to say. Pleasing others is an unachievable objective.” Some people do not think thoroughly about their views before suggesting them to others. For example, one of them will come to you after you have been married and say, “Why didn’t you propose to such and such woman? Why didn’t you marry her?” At this point, you feel like erupting in his face, saying, “Dear brother! I have already got married! End of discussion! No one asked you for your suggestions!”

Generally speaking,
A man is never without an opponent
Even if he lives alone on a mountain peak
Do not punish yourself.

Experience
One of the predecessors said, “The one who subjects his religion to argumentation changes his opinions very often!”

[The Golden Girl =D]

Heard this story before from my English class plus my Parents =]

it's *tanish ta3ish tanta3ish* ... I LOVE that phrase <3
 
Jazaki Allah khair for sharing

[Romeesa-Chan]

A very very important lesson!
Other people's words used to affect me a lot in the past but now, I've changed that part in me and only choose to listen to those only very close to me if they wanna critise me in any way or suggest me to change my bad habits.
JazakAllah khair for sharing!

[Amelia]

Very old story, but it's going to be the valuable lesson till the end of time, iA.

JazakAllah Khair. 

[username]

nice
a great lesson to learn
and give the little kiddo a kiss from me:)

[The Golden Girl =D]

^ Yo his son is our age now

[username]

*facepalm*

better not mention this to him then:P

[The Golden Girl =D]

LMAO XD ..we don't even know the guy

[Shoshou..Mony]

@Gigi, loool aywia it's this phrase. Very lively.

W akeed, it's a famous story for Juha being known for 'the not very smart' type of person.  

@Romeesa, it's good to listen to people's opinions, but only those comments of value..the ones that send an advice or a suggestion in them, not the ones which are meant to be for your self-destruction.

Thanks for reading!

@Lia, yeah.. it's very old, but remembering it is a very important thing for those who come accross such people a lot.

Thanks for reading. =]

@Username, which kiddo? :O
I don't have any kids. =X

And first time I see you posting in this board :O

[The Golden Girl =D]

@ Mony : LOL yeah indeed xD 

'not very smart' nah it's 'the naive Old Arab guy '

He's Busy .. he was talking about Abd Alrahman , as in Dr.Muhammad's son

[Shoshou..Mony]

@ Mony : LOL yeah indeed xD 

'not very smart' nah it's 'the naive Old Arab guy '

He's Busy .. he was talking about Abd Alrahman , as in Dr.Muhammad's son

Ana kol el ana 3arfa eno Juha gabi. At least this is what people used to tell me. But naive would describe him better!

Yeah, I think he missed the part where I said that this was written by Dr.Muhammed and thought that the kid was mine. 

Meen el busy?

[The Golden Girl =D]

Ana kol el ana 3arfa eno Juha gabi. At least this is what people used to tell me. But naive would describe him better!

Yeah, I think he missed the part where I said that this was written by Dr.Muhammed and thought that the kid was mine. 

Meen el busy?

LOL when I was a kid He used to be the center of every joke I make

Hehe LOL I guess

Username

[username]

ikr
epic

i guess ill shut up next time
or read first anyway:P

@moni: well it has been a long tyme, since ive posted in any board:P

[Malak]

Wow, an amazing story

Pleasing others is an unachievable objective.
LOL, so true , therefore don't even bother 

Thanks for sharing.

LOL @ what username said 

[Romeesa-Chan]

@Romeesa, it's good to listen to people's opinions, but only those comments of value..the ones that send an advice or a suggestion in them, not the ones which are meant to be for your self-destruction.

Of course. =]

Change for the good.