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Marriage
Alpha:
--- Quote from: sweetest angel on May 07, 2010, 05:00:12 am ---
Your list will definitely be shorter with no kids. Tell me something, name one thing, just ONE, that your parents do, in a normal day, which is not for you and your sister? Work to get you money, maybe help you with home work? Even when they pray, its for them as well as for you, so that GOD takes care of you when they are gone. So you are telling me that I can be successful with kids? I am sorry about bringing up the point that they would have been happier without you, may bad, they maybe will not. Even if life takes me to a martial life, i'll put my kids first and i'll love them indefinitely. BUT THAT IS THE POINT! I don't want my love to a husband and to kids to keep me in place!
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They are happy... Not for me, but for them.
Don't really like talking personal... but anyway... ::)
I read for them what they cannot see. They have an eye that speaks. I take care of them when they are tired. I help my mother with her works. Feed my father when his hands are dirty. I try to be there when they need to talk. I spend my nights taking care of them when they get ill... There are so many other things I do, but I don't think it necessary to mention it all here. That must have been enough...
If you still think they would have been happier without kids, better ask them, if ever you get the opportunity. I'll give you $ 100, from my own pockets, if they say yes.
--- Quote ---You forgot to mention, and twice the load, twice the responsibility, and countless points to consider before taking a simple decision like should i go to that presentation or not.
With kids: I'll have to go late until they sleep, and make him dinner. Then I'll have to wake early in the morning to make them breakfast (and maybe drop them to school). A first child? then you will never get out of home without a nanny that you trust. Of course AFTER your first maternity year.
without kids: Yes, I'll just call to check for the timings, I don't want to come back very late. period.
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Why such a narrow view? You just take into account what you have to do? What about what others will do for YOU? If am too busy, my husband or my kids can cook for me. If I have a presentation, I know I can rely on them to cheer me up, to encourage me, to be by my side. I'd have people to take care of me if I'm tired. I'll have someone to tell about how my hypothetical conference went. And I would need someone in case it didn't go right. I would have people to assist me, to talk and share things with. It's not only what I would do for them, it's also what they would do for me.
It's not when I'll be some 40-50 years old hag that I'll realize and regret what I lost, afraid of being too overloaded. Life is lived only once, live it FULL girl. :)
Loneliness or celibacy is always empty, somehow, some kind... We all need someone, some time. Agree, friends will try to be there when you need them most-- but family will ALWAYS be there, whether you need them or not. You won't need reasons for companionship when family will be there.
$tyli$h Executive:
I see no point why someone wouldn't be successful if he or she marries someone or has kids.
Look up the list of the richest people in the world. 97+% of them are married.
Saladin:
I got no packs. LOL!!!
I am quite sure Roxy will end up marrying a wrestler, how does the big show sound?
The importance of marriage cannot be stressed any further. It is a lifelong intent, and commitment to a woman that now has become your family.
Alpha:
I don't find my one post here... ???
Alpha:
--- Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on May 07, 2010, 07:54:13 am ---Oops! sorry for the mistake!
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No worry.
--- Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on May 07, 2010, 07:56:15 am ---If not anything, this one will surely change: ::)
Life is cruel if you're not very rich...!
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Even if you're not... Anyway, I passed the stage when a girl sits and waits for prince charming to come. ;)
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