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Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
Alpha:
--- Quote from: ~ GG-Khan ~ on July 26, 2011, 07:28:54 pm ---Something has been troubling my mind lately.
My Cousin ,his mom is my Auntie and his dad is a Saudi. The other day I was talking to him and the topic of "Dating" came up and so I asked him whether he is dating a girl or not. I know that some of his best friends are girls that he usually tells them "I love you babe/I miss you babe". He comes from a Noble family so the idea of "Dating" is sort of a "Taboo" according to his family.
Anyways he said "Yes , I have a girlfriend" and then I asked him some Questions about her and he showed me her picture. What pissed me off really bad was when I asked him " What if your sister was dating a guy now , what would you do? ha?"..
he replied by saying " I'll beat the heel out of him , I won't even let her date a guy in the first place >:("..
I told him : " Well , then why can YOU date while she CAN'T"
He replied by saying : " She is my responsibility , her reputation is my responsibility too"
I replied : " You think your reputation won't be ruined for going with girls"
he said : " No , because I'm a guy"
I was really pissed because if a guy who dated girls and stuff like that proposed to his sister ,I am sure she'll reject him without hesitation.
It breaks my heart when I know such ruthless boys exist.
Now how the hell can I "OPEN HIS EYES" and let him realize what he's doing is wrong.
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When you meet your cousin, take tissue paper, use it the way you want. After that give it to him to use. Wait till he rejects it. Then, tell him: "This is how you will be in some time-- used. If you yourself have rejected this, do not be foolish enough to expect anyone else to accept it. Even your girl might not."
If he does not find anything to contradict you, rest assured. You've done your part. This will stay in his mind for some time.
Leave it at that itself. Do not try to lecture him everytime on the virtues of morality-- he might get offended and neglect the essential of what he should know. My own cousins are very nice with me, but they would never succumb to my lecturing them. I do throw comments here and then, it tends to work better.
If there is still no improvement, then I guess you should let go. Some people do not understand fire is dangerous unless they've gone through it and felt the pain of burning.
The Golden Girl =D:
--- Quote from: ~Alpha on July 27, 2011, 01:44:19 pm ---When you meet your cousin, take tissue paper, use it the way you want. After that give it to him to use. Wait till he rejects it. Then, tell him: "This is how you will be in some time-- used. If you yourself have rejected this, do not be foolish enough to expect anyone else to accept it. Even your girl might not."
If he does not find anything to contradict you, rest assured. You've done your part. This will stay in his mind for some time.
Leave it at that itself. Do not try to lecture him everytime on the virtues of morality-- he might get offended and neglect the essential of what he should know. My own cousins are very nice with me, but they would never succumb to my lecturing them. I do throw comments here and then, it tends to work better.
If there is still no improvement, then I guess you should let go. Some people do not understand fire is dangerous unless they've gone through it and felt the pain of burning.
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Alright :-\ :)
Thanks a tonne sis :-*
Alpha:
Thank Borakk. He directed me here.;D
9th grade is how old, if I may ask?
The Golden Girl =D:
--- Quote from: ~Alpha on July 27, 2011, 02:22:59 pm ---Thank Borakk. He directed me here.;D
9th grade is how old, if I may ask?
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Jazakom Allah kair =] ...i.e. May Allah reward you two =]
14 years old.
Alpha:
Thank you. First time, I really felt someone blessed me. :)
14 is old enough... so, I guess he will understand the tissue paper analogy.
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