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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #390 on: July 26, 2011, 07:46:52 pm »
Quote from: ~ GG-Khan  ~ on July 26, 2011, 07:28:54 pm
Something has been troubling my mind lately.

My Cousin ,his mom is my Auntie and his dad is a Saudi. The other day I was talking to him and the topic of "Dating" came up and so I asked him whether he is dating a girl or not. I know that some of his best friends are girls that he usually tells them "I love you babe/I miss you babe". He comes from a Noble family so the idea of "Dating" is sort of a "Taboo" according to his family.

Anyways he said "Yes , I have a girlfriend" and then I asked him some Questions about her and he showed me her picture. What pissed me off really bad was when I asked him " What if your sister was dating a guy now , what would you do? ha?"..
he replied by saying " I'll beat the heel out of him , I won't even let her date a guy in the first place  >:("..
I told him : " Well , then why can YOU date while she CAN'T"
He replied by saying : " She is my responsibility , her reputation is my responsibility too"
I replied : " You think your reputation won't be ruined for going with girls"
he said : " No , because I'm a guy"

I was really pissed because if a guy who dated girls and stuff like that proposed to his sister ,I am sure she'll reject him without hesitation.

It breaks my heart when I know such ruthless boys exist.

Now how the hell can I "OPEN HIS EYES" and let him realize what he's doing is wrong.
Most of the muslim guys which date are all like this,many of my friends are like this :(
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #391 on: July 26, 2011, 07:54:14 pm »
Quote from: HUSH1994 on July 26, 2011, 07:46:52 pm
Most of the muslim guys which date are all like this,many of my friends are like this :(

Ya3ni banat 2ilnas 2il3ab feehom li3b lakon 25tak laaa 7aram... heeya 3ardee ...well banat 2ilnas homma 2a3rad 2aba2hom obviously =.=  >:(
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #392 on: July 26, 2011, 07:55:20 pm »
Quote from: ~ GG-Khan  ~ on July 26, 2011, 07:54:14 pm
Ya3ni banat 2ilnas 2il3ab feehom li3b lakon 25tak laaa 7aram... heeya 3ardee ...well banat 2ilnas homma 2a3rad 2aba2hom obviously =.=  >:(

English please. =,=
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #393 on: July 26, 2011, 07:58:37 pm »
Quote from: Romy on July 26, 2011, 07:55:20 pm
English please. =,=

Sorry I said :

So you playing with other people's daughters is "Okay" but others playing with your sister is "haraaam" ... She is your responsibility ...well these girl\s are their father's responsibility too obviously =.=  >:(
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #394 on: July 26, 2011, 08:10:11 pm »
Quote from: ~ GG-Khan  ~ on July 26, 2011, 07:58:37 pm
Sorry I said :

So you playing with other people's daughters is "Okay" but others playing with your sister is "haraaam" ... She is your responsibility ...well these girl\s are their father's responsibility too obviously =.=  >:(

No problem.

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I posted earlier. Dunno if yuh read it.
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #395 on: July 26, 2011, 08:13:19 pm »
I don't think so , Would you mind quoting it for me ?
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #396 on: July 26, 2011, 08:18:02 pm »
Quote from: ~ GG-Khan  ~ on July 26, 2011, 08:13:19 pm
I don't think so , Would you mind quoting it for me ?

HERE:
Quote from: ~ GG-Khan  ~ on July 26, 2011, 07:28:54 pm
Something has been troubling my mind lately.

My Cousin ,his mom is my Auntie and his dad is a Saudi. The other day I was talking to him and the topic of "Dating" came up and so I asked him whether he is dating a girl or not. I know that some of his best friends are girls that he usually tells them "I love you babe/I miss you babe". He comes from a Noble family so the idea of "Dating" is sort of a "Taboo" according to his family.

Anyways he said "Yes , I have a girlfriend" and then I asked him some Questions about her and he showed me her picture. What pissed me off really bad was when I asked him " What if your sister was dating a guy now , what would you do? ha?"..
he replied by saying " I'll beat the heel out of him , I won't even let her date a guy in the first place  >:("..
I told him : " Well , then why can YOU date while she CAN'T"
He replied by saying : " She is my responsibility , her reputation is my responsibility too"
I replied : " You think your reputation won't be ruined for going with girls"
he said : " No , because I'm a guy"

I was really pissed because if a guy who dated girls and stuff like that proposed to his sister ,I am sure she'll reject him without hesitation.

It breaks my heart when I know such ruthless boys exist.

Now how the hell can I "OPEN HIS EYES" and let him realize what he's doing is wrong.


I know such guys who like having girl friends but if their sisters do, they would kill them.
It is just sad.
Well, mainly it's all how he is brought up.
In my family, if guys have girl friends it's fine and if I talk to a guy then they all freak out. =,=

Anyways, to be honest. . . I really dunno what can be done if he is not ready to accept that what he is doing is wrong.
The change must be from his side. He has to realize what he is doing is completely wrong.
Having friends who are girls is fine as long as our intentions is clean.

You can try talking to him to advice him from yer side as much as possible.

Sorry I cannot be of much help! :-[

Good luck! (:
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #397 on: July 26, 2011, 08:23:39 pm »
Quote from: Romy on July 26, 2011, 08:18:02 pm
HERE:

I know such guys who like having girl friends but if their sisters do, they would kill them.
It is just sad.
Well, mainly it's all how he is brought up.
In my family, if guys have girl friends it's fine and if I talk to a guy then they all freak out. =,=

Anyways, to be honest. . . I really dunno what can be done if he is not ready to accept that what he is doing is wrong.
The change must be from his side. He has to realize what he is doing is completely wrong.
Having friends who are girls is fine as long as our intentions is clean.

You can try talking to him to advice him from yer side as much as possible.

Sorry I cannot be of much help! :-[

Good luck! (:

By the way you just quoted me ?!

IKR , Ditto =.=

No Problem , I just hope he actually listens  :-\
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #398 on: July 26, 2011, 08:24:49 pm »
Quote from: ~ GG-Khan  ~ on July 26, 2011, 08:23:39 pm
By the way you just quoted me ?!

IKR , Ditto =.=

No Problem , I just hope he actually listens  :-\

Yeah, I guess.

I hope so too.

Tell him: LOWER YER GAZE.  >:(
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #399 on: July 26, 2011, 08:26:13 pm »
Quote from: Romy on July 26, 2011, 08:24:49 pm
Yeah, I guess.

I hope so too.

Tell him: LOWER YER GAZE.  >:(

He's not religious to be honest , but I'll do my best inshAllah =]
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #400 on: July 26, 2011, 08:28:51 pm »
Quote from: ~ GG-Khan  ~ on July 26, 2011, 08:26:13 pm
He's not religious to be honest , but I'll do my best inshAllah =]
I will pray fer yuh and him too, IA. (:
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« Reply #401 on: July 26, 2011, 08:30:21 pm »
Quote from: Romy on July 26, 2011, 08:28:51 pm
I will pray fer yuh and him too, IA. (:

Thanks sis  :)
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« Reply #402 on: July 27, 2011, 05:02:47 am »
I never understood one thing... From the boy's side, if he dates a girl, its entirely his loss. He will be distracted from his studies and other more important things. HE will have to spend money for dates. He will have to "maintain secrecy" if he is from a family which considers dating to be a taboo. In short, HE will have to bear all the trouble and pain.

Now what does he GAIN from dating? Showing off to other friends does not constitute to any monetary or material gain. In some cases, a sexual relationship may be possible. However, it is not worth considering all the trouble one has to go through. In short, you're in a very bad business deal if you are dating a girl. ::)

So, why are boys so curious to date a girl?? ??? ???

*Golden girl: show him this post of mine. :P *
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #403 on: July 27, 2011, 08:31:01 am »
Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on July 27, 2011, 05:02:47 am
I never understood one thing... From the boy's side, if he dates a girl, its entirely his loss. He will be distracted from his studies and other more important things. HE will have to spend money for dates. He will have to "maintain secrecy" if he is from a family which considers dating to be a taboo. In short, HE will have to bear all the trouble and pain.

Now what does he GAIN from dating? Showing off to other friends does not constitute to any monetary or material gain. In some cases, a sexual relationship may be possible. However, it is not worth considering all the trouble one has to go through. In short, you're in a very bad business deal if you are dating a girl. ::)

So, why are boys so curious to date a girl?? ??? ???

*Golden girl: show him this post of mine. :P *
lol...so true
actually this goes for most people(girls aswell).....why cant they just be friends......according to me "love" in most cases complicates people's life.
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Re: Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
« Reply #404 on: July 27, 2011, 09:58:42 am »
Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on July 27, 2011, 05:02:47 am
I never understood one thing... From the boy's side, if he dates a girl, its entirely his loss. He will be distracted from his studies and other more important things. HE will have to spend money for dates. He will have to "maintain secrecy" if he is from a family which considers dating to be a taboo. In short, HE will have to bear all the trouble and pain.

Now what does he GAIN from dating? Showing off to other friends does not constitute to any monetary or material gain. In some cases, a sexual relationship may be possible. However, it is not worth considering all the trouble one has to go through. In short, you're in a very bad business deal if you are dating a girl. ::)

So, why are boys so curious to date a girl?? ??? ???

*Golden girl: show him this post of mine. :P *


His Mom gives me money to be honest , plus now his girlfriend isn't in town and hence he is not going on dates.

He actually talked about marrying her to me o.O ... And when I started explaining it to him how wrong it is since he is still in 9th grade =.=  ,he got so angry and said " It's MY life , Leave me Alone"...and he said that he doesn't chose girls because they're "Hot" ,he chose her after deep thinking and stuff i.e. trying to say she is the right girl or something.

Anyways I'm glad for the first time in his life he opened up to me so I'm done talking because it just piss me off when I see that whatever I say doesn't even affect him i.e. He just listens to his own opinion.

I don't know what to do , but I sure don't want to think about this matter anymore  :-\ :-X
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