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Girlfriend and Boyfriend relationships
Deadly_king:
--- Quote from: Chingoo on July 08, 2011, 09:59:08 pm ---I believe in love after marriage. I am perfectly fine with not having 'dated' my fiance before marriage; if I have a confirmation about a few things that matter to me, I don't care to meet him or talk to him before marriage. It's okay if I know someone before marriage when they propose to me, but it's not important. I would want though that the proposal is accepted by the boy and he doesn't just 'let' his parents make the decision. That's all ^^ And don't get me wrong, I don't say this because this is how it's done in my society, or my family won't let me hang out with boys, or whatever. Been there, done that; found this to the smart religious analogy most of us find orthodox but I think it's a wise tenet of faith.
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I really like your point of view Chingoo :D
If only every girl though like you ;)
--- Quote from: nikita eshrat on July 09, 2011, 01:51:51 am ---girlfriends and boyfreinds are such a waste of time especially wen ur in high school. i mean wats the point of having an affair wid one guy wen u kno u r gonna end up getting married wid another altho this isnt always the case but deres alwys a 50-50 risk of the relationship not working out. so why risk it?
and esp in islamic society where the girls purity(if she had previuos relationships or not) is so important at the time of marriage..!
i hate the american culture of dating... where u hav to go through so many guys/girls b4 u find the "right one"...wat pple fail to notice is dat on the process of finding this so-called right one..they are actually getting USED( if u kno wat i mean!)
lastly, MAY ALLAH PROTECT ALL OF US FROM THINGS THAT ARE AGAINST OUR RELIGION..AMEEN!
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Ameen :)
Very good opinion ;)
--- Quote from: ***exam*** on July 09, 2011, 10:41:16 am ---i didnt get you there ! :-\ :-\ :-\
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If you yourself does not want to experience such things, then you cannot say that you are fine with it ;)
O.T.13.:
cant really remember my opinion when i initially posted here, but yea here what i think of such relationships now
it depends on what you want out of such relationships
Theres one type of relationships, the most popular one in highschool and pre-U and to some extent also in uni, back home we call it Masik Zaman, or Holding Time, basically both parties are fully convinced that they are entering a relationship that is bound to end with a break up (and not marriage), where basically both parties just need someone to care for them or they want to take care of someone.
Such relationships are fun and nice and whatnot, but it tells a lot about how weak you are
Another type is friends with benefit. Basically no emotions, just boom boom. Makes me lose faith in humanity when i think of those.
A third type, and this i would like anyone to oppose, is when seeing someone of the opposite sex as a potential life partner, you get to know him, slowly fall in love with, spontaneously enter a relationship, and as time passes by it gets more and more serious and eventually sees a proposal and a marriage.
While I mainly avoid judging people based on their relationships, the first two types of relationships i find demeaning to the partner, and it always will somehow end up becoming a phantom that will chase you throughout your life
third type is one i viciously agree with, but people need to keep in mind things such as religious backgrounds before allowing themselves into entering one,those who do not, then i see they lie to themselves, and i will actually categorize such relationships as belonging to the first category rather than the third.
***exam***:
--- Quote from: Deadly_king on July 09, 2011, 06:22:38 pm ---
If you yourself does not want to experience such things, then you cannot say that you are fine with it ;)
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by my earlier statement i mean i am not against relationships and dont dislike anyone who is into it ! but at the same time i know that all the so called love which they mention the root behind it is fake !! and i do call fake stuff ! fake :)
The Golden Girl =D:
Something has been troubling my mind lately.
My Cousin ,his mom is my Auntie and his dad is a Saudi. The other day I was talking to him and the topic of "Dating" came up and so I asked him whether he is dating a girl or not. I know that some of his best friends are girls that he usually tells them "I love you babe/I miss you babe". He comes from a Noble family so the idea of "Dating" is sort of a "Taboo" according to his family.
Anyways he said "Yes , I have a girlfriend" and then I asked him some Questions about her and he showed me her picture. What pissed me off really bad was when I asked him " What if your sister was dating a guy now , what would you do? ha?"..
he replied by saying " I'll beat the heel out of him , I won't even let her date a guy in the first place >:("..
I told him : " Well , then why can YOU date while she CAN'T"
He replied by saying : " She is my responsibility , her reputation is my responsibility too"
I replied : " You think your reputation won't be ruined for going with girls"
he said : " No , because I'm a guy"
I was really pissed because if a guy who dated girls and stuff like that proposed to his sister ,I am sure she'll reject him without hesitation.
It breaks my heart when I know such ruthless boys exist.
Now how the hell can I "OPEN HIS EYES" and let him realize what he's doing is wrong.
Romeesa-Chan:
--- Quote from: ~ GG-Khan ~ on July 26, 2011, 07:28:54 pm ---Something has been troubling my mind lately.
My Cousin ,his mom is my Auntie and his dad is a Saudi. The other day I was talking to him and the topic of "Dating" came up and so I asked him whether he is dating a girl or not. I know that some of his best friends are girls that he usually tells them "I love you babe/I miss you babe". He comes from a Noble family so the idea of "Dating" is sort of a "Taboo" according to his family.
Anyways he said "Yes , I have a girlfriend" and then I asked him some Questions about her and he showed me her picture. What pissed me off really bad was when I asked him " What if your sister was dating a guy now , what would you do? ha?"..
he replied by saying " I'll beat the heel out of him , I won't even let her date a guy in the first place >:("..
I told him : " Well , then why can YOU date while she CAN'T"
He replied by saying : " She is my responsibility , her reputation is my responsibility too"
I replied : " You think your reputation won't be ruined for going with girls"
he said : " No , because I'm a guy"
I was really pissed because if a guy who dated girls and stuff like that proposed to his sister ,I am sure she'll reject him without hesitation.
It breaks my heart when I know such ruthless boys exist.
Now how the hell can I "OPEN HIS EYES" and let him realize what he's doing is wrong.
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I know such guys who like having girl friends but if their sisters do, they would kill them.
It is just sad.
Well, mainly it's all how he is brought up.
In my family, if guys have girl friends it's fine and if I talk to a guy then they all freak out. =,=
Anyways, to be honest. . . I really dunno what can be done if he is not ready to accept that what he is doing is wrong.
The change must be from his side. He has to realize what he is doing is completely wrong.
Having friends who are girls is fine as long as our intentions is clean.
You can try talking to him to advice him from yer side as much as possible.
Sorry I cannot be of much help! :-[
Good luck! (:
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