Should marriage be a lifelong commitment?

[O.T.13.]

Nah i dont think it should
people who are planning to marry should INTEND on it being a lifelong commitment, but you never know whats going to happen, life is not predictable, why make marriage like some sort of a lifelong binding contract?

[Saladin]

yes, we are talking abt the intention, it has to be good and moral. That it why it SHOULD, we never said it must be.

[Alpha]

Astar,

Yes, nice comments about stars. The cinema, media, and all their brothers and sisters that make the concept of marriage a very banal one indeed. Sacredness lost.

Dude & Omer,

So that marriage is 'moral', how can it be for a temporary period?

And what about children? Are they not affected?

Are courts, mosques, temples, etc, lingerie shops? (Sorry for the word, but, it's the best one in context here) Gotta be changed once a while?

[Saladin]

It depends, on the circumstance.

For example, if a husband is unruly and disrespectful of his wife and vice versa, then a divorce should be ordained. There is no other alternative as the Children growing up would be worse off in this sort of relationship.

This is the circumstance, but ppl should always intend in their hearts, that they want to make a commitment to each other.

[O.T.13.]

Dude & Omer,

So that marriage is 'moral', how can it be for a temporary period?

And what about children? Are they not affected?

Are courts, mosques, temples, etc, lingerie shops? (Sorry for the word, but, it's the best one in context here) Gotta be changed once a while?

life aint fair
whats better, maintaining a "family" thats broken apart or sharing a custody?
i didnt get ur last line

[Saladin]

OTs right, as much as we all think it shud be, there are many circumstances in which it is not.

[Alpha]

Dude 321,

But then, at every minor disagreement, people will send their spouses to court?

Conflicts do occur, it's natural. But you have to bear with them. THIS is what we call "commitment". It's sacrificing every choice for only one choice.


Omer,

Sharing a custody? How? Sharing the kids? What if none of the parents want to take care of them?

My last line... I mean... Divorce is now more of a trend, than a 'rescue' from a hellish marital life. It's being misused, law is being mocked. People want to 'experience' with many partners. They change it like they're changing --------. You get me now...?


Excuse my short answers this time, tired writing the same thing again.

You may have a look at the discussion that I started at the same time as this one. You'll get a better idea of my points.

http://speaking24.ning.com/forum/topics/should-marriage-be-a-lifelong?xg_source=activity

[O.T.13.]

nah its aight i prefer the short answers, i aint gonna be able to give enough time or effort for longer ones 
well one of them is gonna want the kids otherwise why did they have them in the first place
well "experiencing with many parteners" is more about people's morales than being the concept of marriage: if they were intending on having a "happily ever after" marriage, then the thought of experimenting wouldnt have risen up in the first place

[Alpha]

nah its aight i prefer the short answers, i aint gonna be able to give enough time or effort for longer ones 
well one of them is gonna want the kids otherwise why did they have them in the first place
well "experiencing with many parteners" is more about people's morales than being the concept of marriage: if they were intending on having a "happily ever after" marriage, then the thought of experimenting wouldnt have risen up in the first place

Hehe, I started preferring short answers too now. 

Well, about kids, mistakes always occur. If every parent 'wanted' the kid he or she got, then the world today wouldn't be flooded with abandoned children.

Yes, you got me well. It's more about their sense of dignity, their morals. How sad, many have cracked theirs down. And the sad thing is that others unknowingly become their victims.
Does the world really moves on morals? Not for everyone, unfortunately.

[O.T.13.]

Yea its the sad truth, morals ain't a necessity anymore to live "successfully"
Unwanted kids I will agree to a certain extent, but abandoned children are not all abandoned because of that, three are a number of other factors that contribute to that number

[Alpha]

Yes, I mentioned one of the numerous factors.

But personally, I think you shouldn't give life to an innocent when you cannot assume your responsibility. These abandoned children did not choose to be born. It could have been anyone. It could have been us...

[astarmathsandphysics]

I imagined that family and marriage would be really important in Iran but this morning I heard the average woman has only 1.7 babies - one of the lowest birth rates in the world.

[Alpha]

Fertility rate is low.


Maybe they're afraid their children would be at the mercy of death as soon as they're gifted life.

[astarmathsandphysics]

I think maybe that women in Iran are a lot more independent than people think. It is usually women who decide how many children they want.

[Alpha]

Ya, that's the first reason for a drop in fertility rate normally. Education.

I'd read somewhere that fertility rate is going to rise again, after falling dramatically. Pop. would fall to 3 billion to rise up to 9 billion in the future. Just predictions, nothing sure yet.