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Shoshou..Mony:
~ Lesson 6: Paid in FULL << Brought me to TEARS



A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and he handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: $5.00

For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00

For going to the store for you: $.50

Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25

Taking out the garbage: $1.00

For getting a good report card: $5.00

For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00

Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he had written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me: No Charge.

For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you: No Charge.

For all the trying times, and all the tears that you’ve caused through the years: No Charge.

For all the nights filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead: No Charge.

For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose: No Charge.

When you add it up, the cost of my love is: No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight up at his mother and said, “Mom, I sure do love you.”

And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote:

“PAID IN FULL.”

This really made me cry a lot. My parents did A LOT to me. I am who I am now because of them. Their health, their energy, their life is all given and spent on us. Just the thought of how much my parents went through to make me who I am now, to educate me, to spend hours shopping just to get me the right clothes, to spend days and nights awake with me to help me study for my exams and to work all day just to earn the money which would make me alive..brings me to tears.

Our parents owe us NOTHING. In fact, we are the ones who owe them for bringing us to this life.

Let us, ALL OF US, do something special to our parents everyday. I'm making it a habit to hug and kiss both my parents daily and thank them for everything they did to me. Just how when we were little babies they would carry us all day, kiss, hug, cuddle, feed and take care of us daily, we should ALL do the same to them now. Yes, we should prepare them a cup of tea to drink, we should help them around the house, kiss and hug them, spent some time with them joking and speaking to them not to feel lonely.

Treat your parents the way you want your OWN children in the future to treat you, because believe it or not...what goes around, comes around.

Shoshou..Mony:
~ Lesson 7: Ramadan



Ramadan is a beautiful month. In it, we all feel inner peace and closer to Allah. It's this one month of the year where you feel nothing distracts you. It's the month we ALL join together and unite for good deeds.

Indeed whoever misses this month is a total loser.

It's the month where we all wash ourselves from sins and the bad habits.

To all the people who have the intention of changing, then try doing so in Ramadan. Last Ramadan was a very special one for me because in it I turned into the person I am now alhamdolilah. Allah guided me and I no longer followed Islam without understanding it, I started following Islam and LIVING with it.

And trust me when I tell you it leads to nothing but a better life and true happiness.
You can all go on asking the old members which was better? The Shoshou..Mony 2 years back or the Shoshou..Mony now? They'd all say the new one. I am the same fun person but only that I changed my way of living and thinking. Alhamdolilah, I never felt much comfort and much success in my life until I did that.

Islam is a WAY of living. Write down ALL your bad habits and decide that in Ramadan you'd have the change. In psychology, it is said that it takes 21 days to change a habit in your life, but I believe that in the month of Ramadan it takes much less time than that, and so even if you fail to not accomplish what you wanted to do..this doesn't mean you give up in anyway or stop trying. The chance of mastering something from the first shot is almost non-existing so let's all be realistic and get the 'I'm down or I'm a loser' thoughts out of our heads and make it a habit to ALWAYS STAY OPTIMISTIC.

Start writing your plan from NOW! Yes, now not tomorrow and not after 15 mins! Keep jotting down the ideas you have for this Ramadan and what are your plans. Are you planning to volunteer by going out to feed the people in the streets? Are you going to give dates and water? Are you going to stop being angry, selfish, mean and rude with other people and this includes your family? Will you put on the smiling face everyday? Will say the azkar and tasabeeh on daily basis? Will you kiss your mom and dad everyday and thank them for what they did to you?

We are young and on the day of judgement we will be asked about our health and our time! Don't waste your time watching the series or the tv, but rather spend it on something more useful.

This Ramadan might be your last. We can't guarantee we'll be making it to the next Ramadan, so this time we'll make the BEST OF IT and not waste our hours inshAllah. =]

Together, as brothers and sisters, we will encourage and motivate each other isa, also make use of FB and perhaps share the knowledge we are speaking about with your friends. Just remember, you won't be entering paradise alone, but we will be entering paradise as 'groups' of people, so always make sure to spread the message of Allah to those you love and don't love and the reward will be much higher. =]

Shoshou..Mony:
~ Lesson 8:  Block the escape routes of the detractors



What creates ill feelings in the hearts of people for each other the most is the misuse of the tongue and the evil consequences that follow. This includes the hastiness on behalf of some to comment on someone’s words as he speaks, or interrupting him without thinking twice, which only results in hostile argumentation and people harbouring ill feelings towards each other.

You will never be able to rectify all the people, teach them Islamic etiquettes, and train them in the skills of dealing with people. Let us go beyond the idealism which many become obsessed with when they say, “People are supposed to do this”, or “People are supposed to get used to that...”

Stop thinking about this and just pray over the deceased who is in front of you, as they say. What I mean is that when we deal with people’s mistakes, we should not busy ourselves thinking about what others should do, but rather, we should focus on what we should do. Whenever you wish to say something strange, some people may hastily comment on your words. It is important that you do not give them an opportunity to do so, by
answering their questions before they even ask.

Some people can very effectively prevent a person from commenting without them realising it. I remember once an old man was sitting in a gathering talking about a particular incident he witnessed where two people were fighting at a petrol station, and how it became so serious that both taken to a police station. One of those present in the gathering, who was known to be very talkative, jumped up and began to relate his version of
the story, saying, “Yes, that’s right, but this is not what happened. What actually happened between the two was this, and so-andso was at fault.” He began to mention other details that did not even occur!

The old man turned to him, and I could see that he was about to explode. However, he controlled himself and quietly and calmly said, “Were you there at the incident?” He said, “No.”
The old man said, “Did anyone who witnessed it tell you about it?” “No”, he replied.
The old man said, “Did you read the incident report?” He said, “No.”
Thereupon, the old man screamed, “OK! So how can you say I am wrong when you don’t know anything?”

What surprised me were his leading questions before he objected, for if he were to object before throwing those questions at him and thereby closing all the escape routes, the man would have found many avenues through which to flee, even if he had to lie.

Therefore, when we wish to establish certain facts, we need to precede them with preliminaries in order to convince our opponents before they get a chance to oppose them.

When the Quraysh marched forth to fight the Prophet pbuh and his companions at Badr, some of the intelligent ones among them did not wish to fight. However, they had been compelled to march. The Prophet pbuh found out about this and was sure that if they attended the battle, they would not fight the Muslims. When he approached the battlefield, he wanted to inform his Companions about his decision regarding them and forbid them from killing them. He knew that some may have question in their minds about his decision such as, “Why shouldn’t we kill them when they have come out to fight us? Why did he exempt these people in particular?”

The Prophet pbuh mentioned some preliminaries in order not to give them an opportunity to even think about the objections. How did he do so?
He stood among his Companions and said, “I have come to know that some men from Banu Hashim and others have been forced to come out. They do not want to fight us.”
This was the first preliminary fact. He then said, “Therefore, whoever of you meets anyone from Banu Hashim in the battle, then let him not kill him. Whoever sees Abu al-Bakhtari bin Hashim bin al-Harith bin Asad, then let him not kill him. Whoever sees al-‘Abbas bin ‘Abd al-Muttalib, the uncle of the Messenger of Allah, then let him not kill him, for they have been compelled to march.”

The Companions agreed to comply and began to discuss this amongst their circles. Abu Hudhayfa bin ‘Utbah bin Rabi’ah said, “Shall we kill our fathers, our sons and our brothers and spare al-‘Abbas? By Allah, if I see him on the battlefield, I will strike him with my sword!”
His words reached the Messenger of Allah pbuh. He turned to “Umar and said, ‘O Abu Hafs!” ‘Umar said about this later, “By Allah, this was the first time ever the Messenger of Allah pbuh gave me my nickname, Abu Hafs.”
The Prophet pbuh said, “O Abu Hafs! Will the face of the uncle of Allah’s Messenger be struck with a sword?”
‘Umar felt disgusted and angry, for how could Abu Hudhayfah have rejected the order of the Messenger of Allah pbuh? Was
he not a Muslim?
‘Umar said at the top his voice, “O Messenger of Allah! Allow me to strike his neck with my sword! By Allah, he has become a hypocrite!”

Abu Hudhayfah – may Allah be pleased with him – thereafter regretted his words on that day and said, “I do not feel secure from the words I uttered that day. I will continue to be terrified of them unless martyrdom expiates for them.” He was martyred on the day of Yamamah.

Advice...
Have them for lunch before they eat you for dinner!

Written By: Dr.Mohammed Al-Arifi

Shoshou..Mony:
~ Lesson 9: Excuse me HUMAN BEINGS...



Kid : I wish I could grow up.
Young Man : Wish I could be a kid again and the toy is my only concern in life.
Old Man : If only the old days come back when I was a young man...

Single : When will I ever get married and find my partner?
Married : Where are the days when I was single and free?

Rich : If I could stop worrying about all of this money
Poor : If I could be rich and only worry about money

The living : If only I could die and rest from this world
The dead : Please God, get me back to life..I'll do good deeds.

Tall : If I could just be a bit shorter?
Short : If I could just be a little taller?

Obese : If I could just lose some weight...
Skinny : If I could just be a bit fatter...

Fair : If I could be a bit tanned
Black : If I could just be white...

Student : I wish I never go to school or have any homework
Illiterate : If I could just go to school like normal kids...

Excuse me HUMAN beings when will you ever be satisfied?

Allah also said in the Quran:

“‘If you are grateful, I will surely give you more and more” (14th Surah, verse)

"Be content with what Allah has given you, and you will be the richest of people."

"When we complain, we remain. When we whine, we stay behind. When we praise, we raise. =]"

Prophet Muhammed(pbuh) said, "Look at the people who are below you and do not look at the people who are above you, so that you do not be greedy or ungrateful of Allah Blessings."

Gratitude >> Satisfaction >> Happiness
Alhamdolilah. =]

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