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Should divorce be legal?
$tyli$h Executive:
Good point. more than 95% of families I've seen get along well. Some of the points raised earlier makes it seem as if divorces are very common.
***exam***:
divorces r very common in the west but i think not in the places where v live !
Alpha:
--- Quote from: ***exam*** on November 26, 2010, 11:54:18 am ---i cnt assure they wld b happier but atleat they wont be in as pathetic state as they wld b in they r shouting n thrashing each other daily !
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There you go wrong. Some people have so much of ego issues that they can even go to the extent of killing their partners.
--- Quote ---ohkie n abt the thingi they do later on u cnt really count on every singel parent to do that !
not every single mother goes into prostitution ! they might as well find a good job n live her life ahead !
n if the single dad becomes a alcoholic then what is the guaranty he might not become one cuz of the fights n pressure at home ! ??
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Just like you can't count on every single parent who's already gone through lots of trouble to efficiently take care of his or her child.
--- Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on November 26, 2010, 11:56:52 am ---At least they don't have the opportunity to quarrel, as they would have if they lived together.
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Why wouldn't they? People fight everywhere, they don't even care about their surroundings. The streets, supermarkets, stations...
--- Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on November 26, 2010, 12:15:33 pm ---Explain hormonal changes. And how can you possibly CONTROL those changes, so as to prevent divorce? Inject them with supplementary testosterone/estrogen? ::) They are harmful.
That was not a solution, to be direct. That was just a sidetracked reply, avoiding the keyword 'solution'. ;)
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Okay, true, they cannot control changes... but as I said, it comes with time and age. Just like puberty. It's a phase of life that once gone, won't come back. Menopause doesn't come again and again now, does it?
--- Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on November 26, 2010, 12:18:36 pm ---By the way, hormonal changes don't occcur that abruptly as you said.
In teenage the sex drive gets higher. It peaks at 23 for men and 28 for women and gradually falls afterwards. You thus, cannot blame hormones for the natural, gradual decrease of sex drives. The chance of divorce because of this gradual decrease in sex drive is very less. If it were an abrupt decrease, then it would've been a good reason for feeling that the other partner is less attractive etc.
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I don't remember I mentioned "abruptly"... And sex drives get low for women during menopause, and high for men, during their middle ages. This is when women tend to neglect their husbands. And as goes the common saying, "if biryani is not cooked at home, buy it from outside". ::) They start having extra-marital affairs.
--- Quote from: ***exam*** on November 26, 2010, 12:19:56 pm ---haha i too think alpha is just filtering of the word solution :P
n more over some hormonal changes last for long ! n may b if later inlife the partners think they made a mistake n can b back together n both agree to 4 gt the past and move in together then its all fine !
at least it better than the idea of being under hormonal changes n spoiling each others lives
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And no, I'm NOT filtering any word.
Made a mistake? That they divorced?
Then, why make the mistake in the first place itself? ;)
By the way, divorce is a common play in Western countries, and if they are not popular yet in Eastern ones, at least, they are growing in numbers. All around the world.
$tyli$h Executive:
--- Quote from: Cleo~patra on November 30, 2010, 04:45:13 am ---Why wouldn't they? People fight everywhere, they don't even care about their surroundings. The streets, supermarkets, stations...
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I wanna ask you a question , but please don't be offended:
How many of your family members have 'fought' in public places like streets, supermarkets and stations? ::) I think the most probable answer will be None.
Those who fight in public places are uncivilized. And they are, fortunately, a minority.
--- Quote ---Okay, true, they cannot control changes... but as I said, it comes with time and age. Just like puberty. It's a phase of life that once gone, won't come back. Menopause doesn't come again and again now, does it?
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In my own observational estimate, the % of couples who divorce at the time of menopause is relatively less compared to the % of people divorcing within a few years of their marriage.
Anyway, by the time the woman reaches 45, the men will be around 50 and his would've been reduced by that time too. And also, after so many years of marriage, they would've developed a special bond. :P
Alpha:
--- Quote from: $tyli$h Executive on November 30, 2010, 06:37:13 am ---I wanna ask you a question , but please don't be offended:
How many of your family members have 'fought' in public places like streets, supermarkets and stations? ::) I think the most probable answer will be None.
Those who fight in public places are uncivilized. And they are, fortunately, a minority.
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Should've asked how many I saw fight in public places. My friend witnessed a murder; a husband struck his wife with a knife 18 times because she was divorcing him.
--- Quote ---In my own observational estimate, the % of couples who divorce at the time of menopause is relatively less compared to the % of people divorcing within a few years of their marriage.
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In mine, the % of people having extra-marital affairs are far greater at their middle ages than within a few years of their marriages. The first few years of marriage is called the "Honeymoon phase". It's the time when everybody is happy; both husbands and wives enthusiastic about the idea of getting to know each other and start a new life together. It is later that they start having problems.
--- Quote ---Anyway, by the time the woman reaches 45, the men will be around 50 and his would've been reduced by that time too. And also, after so many years of marriage, they would've developed a special bond. :P
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Exactly, the time. Most women reach menopause at 40-50 now... and they find themselves with husbands at their middle ages too.
Yes, they would have developed a special bond. But just a few minutes can ruin everything. :)
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