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anger is the worst enemy
[Ash]:
A man under the grip of anger may commit ever the most heinous crimes because he has lost all his senses. He may murder his preceptors or parent even. He may cause irreparable damage to himself and the noble men be abusing the latter in harshest terms. There is no sin that is beyond him in such a state of mind.
Maybe a man who is mad or drunk is better than a man who is in rage.
Romeesa-Chan:
- Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils, but sometimes it results in the destruction of many noble qualities.
- It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus he becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense.
- Anger is a temptation and deception of Shaitân.
- Anger is the root of all evils.
- Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person's Imân (faith).
"Who do you imagine to be strong or powerful?" asked the Prophet (PBUH). "He who throws people down," replied his disciples. "Nay!" said the Prophet, "It is he who masters himself when angry."
The Messenger of Allah, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:
"Whoever curbs his anger, while being able to act, Allah will fill his heart with certainty of faith."
Anger is a destructive emotion, as a fire which destroys our well-being, consumes our good actions, repels our friends and dear ones, frightens our children and forces the angels to report bad actions for the Heavenly Records. This is a dangerous rough road and no-one is devoid of it and it brings one close to the wrath of Allah.
GossipGirl:
^ Great. People still need to learn patience. Most of us are bad at controlling the anger. However, we must never stop trying.
Romeesa-Chan:
--- Quote from: GossipGirl on August 01, 2011, 01:50:25 am ---^ Great. People still need to learn patience. Most of us are bad at controlling the anger. However, we must never stop trying.
--- End quote ---
I am one of those bad people. I am trying my best. IA, I hope I overcome it completely one day! (:
Amelia:
Anger is literally a killing thing. It is in fact, "an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured."
Pray for patience. Practice control.
Some tips for anger management. ;)
No. 1: Take a timeout
Counting to 10 isn't just for kids. Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.
No. 2: Once you're calm, express your anger
As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
No. 3: Get some exercise
Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out.
No. 4: Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
No. 5: Identify possible solutions
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything, and might only make it worse.
No. 6: Stick with 'I' statements
To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework."
No. 7: Don't hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
No. 8: Use humor to release tension
Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
No. 9: Practice relaxation skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation..
Soure : http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/anger-management/MH00102/NSECTIONGROUP=2
Take care. ;)
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